HOW YOU KNOW SOMEONE HAS A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE _ A woman on TikTok shares how you can tell someone has a successful marriage… and she’s so right. Here’s the video. I’ve gathered some of the best for you…
• My husband and I always say “Lift me up in public, correct me in private” no one (besides our therapist) needs to know the complexities of our marriage
• I have to hold myself back from bragging on my husband 24/7 because I feel like I’m bragging.
• Every time I go into my husband’s work there is always someone mentioning that he talks about me all the time.
• Years ago, I was talking to a male coworker who also worked indirectly with my husband for many years. I jokingly said that I was curious how much my husband complained about me to his coworkers. My coworker stopped and told me that he had never heard my husband utter even one negative thing about me. To this day, I remember how that one comment made me feel and how it was rare to have a marriage like ours.
GREEN FLAGS IN A MAN’S APARTMENT _ Women were asked: What do you notice or look for at a man’s apartment that are green flags? What women said:
• Hand towels and hand soap in the bathroom.
• A clean bathroom and toilet that you can feel comfortable in and sitting on.
• Books.
• Hand soap in the bathroom. I befriended a guy who did not have hand soap… he was 24. I bought some and left it there, just a regular sized bottle. It was still sitting there, almost unused (except for the times I used it) almost a year later.
• Plants. It’s the next best thing to having a pet. Plants need care, they’re alive, and having one (or many) shows that there is a nurturing side to them.
• Toilet paper stocked, clean sheets on bed, clean towels for hands and body, separate kitchen towels, artwork on walls, a clean toilet and sink.
FOUR QUESTIONS I ASK MY KID EVERY DAY _ A blogger says she asks her pre-teen daughter these four questions every day.
• How’s life? “Sometimes I get somewhere with this one. ‘Sucky’ is what she says when she wants me to ask a more direct question or pry for more details. But when I get a “fine,” I know that question isn’t going to get anywhere, so I don’t press it.”
• What’s up with your friends? “Occasionally, I will ask about a specific friend if I know a kid has been going through something, or if she’s told me about a disagreement she’s trying to work out, but most of the time, I pose this question in general terms. You’d be surprised how, when you take the spotlight off of your kid and shine it on friends, your kid will be more likely to talk.”
• Anything cool going on? “I’ll be honest, this is more for me and my absent-mindedness than it is for her. Sometimes I forget about things coming up, and if I ask this question, she usually reminds me. But sometimes, she tells me all about her secret Harry Potter club or a new project at school.”
• Do you need help with anything? “Most of the time she says no … But this question can go a lot deeper than that. Maybe she’s having trouble trying to fix a rift between two friends, or she doesn’t understand a concept they’re working on at school. Asking if she needs help every day gives me the chance to be there for her when I didn’t know she needed it.”
